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playing too rough). The resentment comes, because your niceness also comes with expectations — that others will appreciate your martyrish efforts or will follow your lead and be like you, always putting others first, stepping up, etc. When I look for a surgeon I want the one with the worst bedside manner who is booked for months because I assume they are making it on talent alone.I think in the home and among friends, niceness is very important but in the competitive world, it is highly overrated and at many times seen as weakness. You'll warp your expectations. (Yay!) In a situation when I am a magnet of attention, being funny and friendly, men mistake it for a personal invitation. This is little-kid stuff that flares up when you start to break your old patterns. The fucked you up. Look, if you don't want to feel inadequate due to your narcissistic, unforgiving, pessimistic construct of what is you, then just ignore it. And also an advice that worked for me - Between guilt and resentment, choose guilt.I hope it helps.Hi, Can you expand on when you say " I find it impossible to actually take any of the steps suggested? The barriers are too high and too thick for me to crack. He treated me as if I were an intelligent human being, capable of taking what he told me and making rational decisions based upon it. I had to have a counselor hand a piece of paper to me with about 30 emotions listed on it and she said these are normal to feel and ok. He was a very serious person; what he was very seriously focused upon was my health and well-being. I have been called many things, but never fake.as long as you don't walk over into placating. I'm definitely not a pushover, but also not nice.

That's just being fake. Seeing him crying made me feel like a monster, and I was tormented by a feeling of guilt that ate at my soul for years.Through seemingly endless soul-searching, I adopted the traits, fore-mentioned in Robert Taibbi's "The Dangers of Being Nice", to the point where it became over-kill. Too agreeable? I have cut out the users . Alas.You bring up somerihg I had not given thought to. Being nice is a problem? I am an ENFP and this explains everything to me . I sent them a thank you card. People, who are courteous, help others and have empathy...might also be harboring all these other issues? Some people do genuinely care that much.I met a man at a bar (of all places) who said, "I know this might feel strange, cause you don't know me, but I can look into your eyes and see you're one those old-fassioned mfers. Such A Fun Age is] an entertaining tale with plenty to say about race, human connection, and the pitfalls of good intentions.” — People (Book of the Week) “ Such a Fun Age tackles big issues—race, class, employer-caregiver tensions—through a riveting story.”

What examples did you use about your mother behavior to make her understand what is was that you didn't like?I'm not "bashing" but not everyone who is overly nice is fake. Jane probably wouldn’t want to swap out my entire weekend shift, you say to yourself, so instead of asking if she can work the entire weekend for you, you ask her if she can do Saturday. He realized then the things that I had been doing because it became crystal clear. It does not mean I am interested romantically". Just get it done.When you feel anger, irritation, or resentment, use it as information telling you what you need, what you don’t like, what you may want. Here's a scenario: child molester moves into your neighborhood, you and the neighbors shun him. Posted Jul 21, 2018 You’ve met them, I’ve met them, or you may be one of them: nice people. 50. "You might be missing out on having a few more good people in your life. One postpones, glosses over by being nice or other solacing actions, explanations.I just wanted to say that this article hit the nail on the head in every possible way. You have a righteous anger burning within you and you would risk life in prison to protect a child's innocence.

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